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Parents Claim First Grader is Transgender

By The Gazette

Mathis Family

Six-year-old Coy Mathis explains her predicament in the simplest of terms:
"I want to go to school. We play games at recess," the first grader said Tuesday.

But the transgender girl is being home schooled this semester because she has been denied access to the girls' bathroom at Eagleside Elementary School in Fountain-Fort Carson School District 8, her parents say.

New York-based Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund attorneys said they filed a complaint with the Colorado Civil Rights Division on behalf of her parents Kathryn and Jeremy Mathis, saying Coy has been discriminated against.

Forcing Coy to use a different bathroom than the girls, "is targeting her for stigma, bullying and harassment," said Michael Silverman, TLDE attorney and executive director. He said that Colorado law prevents schools from discriminating against transgender students.

Coy was identified as a male at birth, but since age 18 months has insisted she is a girl, and has attended school as a girl since December, 2011. Her teachers referred to her as a girl, and she dressed like one and used the girls bathroom, her mother says.

But in December, administrators said Coy could no longer use the girls' bathrooms, Mathis said.

The transgender defense fund provided The Gazette with a letter it said was from the school district that said, "The district's decision took into account not only Coy but other students in the building, their parents and the future impact a boy with male genitals using a girls' bathroom would have as Coy grew older."

The letter, signed by D-8 attorney Kelly Dude, pointed out that Coy was not denied access to educational services. Coy can use the boys' bathroom, a staff bathroom or the nurse's bathroom, the letter said. Dude and D-8 officials did not return phone calls to The Gazette.

The Civil Rights Division, under statute, cannot acknowledge the existence of a complaint, said Executive Director Steven Chavez. A case only becomes public if the Colorado Civil Rights Commission decides to take it to hearing.

Kathryn Mathis said she is telling her child's story publicly because, "The more transgender issues are talked about the better it is. With awareness comes acceptance."

She added, "The district is missing a great opportunity to teach acceptance and love and embracing those who are different, instead of teaching them to single people out as different."

Coy was one of triplets born to the Mathis family -- two boys and one girl. They have two other daughters, too.

"At 18 months of age Coy gravitated to girl things and very much disliked boy things," Mathis said. She liked tutus and makeup and dresses. Coy's brother was all boy, who liked monsters, and trucks and roughhousing.

"We had two boys with the same clothes and toys and they were so different. Coy was growing up very much a girl. We could compare the two and knew that we weren't causing Coy to like certain things. We decided to let her just be who she is."

When she was two and a half, Coy was anxious if she left the house dressed as a boy. She wanted princess dresses and hair bows. "If it was jeans and a polo shirt you could just see the happiness drain from her face," Mathis said.

At age four, she asked them to take her to a doctor "to fix her body," Mathis said.

By then, Mathis said she was expecting that conversation. "I was sad. It's not something an innocent four year old should think of." They told her she could go to the doctor, but that she couldn't alter her body until she was an adult. That satisfied her.

When she started kindergarten, Coy wasn't excited, and wanted her polo shirts to be pink. That was fine for a while, but when she insisted she was a girl, a classmate kept telling her she was a boy. She cried when she couldn't be in the girl's line at school.

"She told us, 'My teacher doesn't know I'm a girl,'" Mathis said.

Mathis said her husband, who is a former Marine and disabled veteran, "took more time to accept it."

But then they decided that not letting Coy be who she was would cause her harm.

They consulted a psychologist, doctor and other parents of transgender children and support groups.

"We socially transitioned her to a girl, which at that age means merely changing pronouns and growing her hair out. No medicines," Mathis says.

They met with the principal, teacher and school psychologist. "They told us they would help make it a safe environment for Coy. She blossomed and her grades went up."

Some kids had questions, but the teacher merely responded that she was a girl. "The kids accepted things at face value." Mathis said.

The family's other children were confused at first, mostly because changing pronouns from him to her was hard.

But then in December, Mathis got a call from the principal saying that Coy could only use the boys' bathroom, the nurses' bathroom or the staff bathroom.

"They seem to think that gender and sexuality are the same. The bathrooms are private. It would be the same if she were older," Mathis said.

They decided to home school her because using different facilities would be stigmatizing. "It would set her up for bullying and harassment."

Through a lawyer, they tried to come to some agreement, but the school would not budge, she said. So they contacted the Transgender Legal Defense and Education Fund.

Mathis has had sleepless nights. Besides dealing with Coy's challenges, another of the triplets, Lily, contracted meningitis at age 4 months, and is disabled.

Asked if the stress gets to her, Mathis said. "After a while, it is just our normal. We deal with it all."

Mathis says of Coy, "No one wants a hard path for their child. We will always accept her for who she is. But it is difficult knowing the obstacles she will face. Parents want kids to be happy."

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  1. hisemiester1Comment by hisemiester1
    February 27, 2013 @ 1:25 pm

    These parents are insane. Both need to be placed in institutions and their children taken from them. What sick twisted freaks they are.

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    • barrymustgoComment by barrymustgo
      February 27, 2013 @ 1:56 pm

      This problem has a simple answer. If the child has male genetalia, he goes to the boys bathroom. If the child has female genetalia, she goes to the girls bathroom. The only reason for seperate bathroom, at that age, is for the privacy, of one genetalia, versus a different genetelia. We need a “trigger” to determine which bathroom is used. So, since we cannot truly “see” what is in the mind of the “so-called” transgender, we must decide by what we can see. Genetalia! When the transgender gets his/her new “junk”, then they can use the opposite bathroom. I agree, these parents need to be made “non-parents”. Remove these kids from this whacked out pair. “OK, parents, you’ve had your 15 minutes of fame”! Now, go away!

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    • pistol packing mamaComment by txgoatlady
      February 27, 2013 @ 2:30 pm

      A psychologist willing to do their job could probably fix this. The only girl out of the triplets ended up disabled after 4 months. I imagine the disabled girl got a lion’s share of the attention due to her illness and subsequent disability. This boy might have been craving the attention the disabled girl got so he started behaving like a girl. Maybe the mom was so excited to have a non-disabled girl that she jumped right on that bandwagon and went along with it. Notice that the dad took longer to accept it. Probably after he was browbeaten by the mother and all her transgender activist “experts”.

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    • truth_will_set_you_free!!Comment by #romneywasourhope
      February 27, 2013 @ 2:32 pm

      The parents of this child are screwed.they talk about not want to set their child up for bullying and harassment.Letting the BOY act like a GIRL set him up for bullying and harassment.No I will not refer to him as a girl because he is a boy.Your gender is not determined by what you think or want to be ,it is determined my your body parts!When the kid started to act like a girl why didn’t the parents see something wrong with that and correct him?The societies thinking is so messed up.Did you hear about the parents who didn’t want their kid to know their gender because the child could choose what they wanted to be?SERIOUSLY COME ON! Boy,am I glad I know Jesus! If God wanted it this way there wouldn’t be genders,just one sex.And what’s the point of cutting of your penis to look like a vagina if you can’t use it anyway?What is the principal behind that?There is NONE!

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    • dshevlinComment by dshevlin
      February 27, 2013 @ 2:32 pm

      This is fake. Parents aren’t insane they are actors. What child at 18 months knows what gender he/she is to know to change it? This is sick and demented news. If the child has a penis he goes to the boys bathroom. PERIOD. What the hell is wrong with everyone? He is gay probably, transgender…….. what the frig is happening to this world? So tired of all this commie progressive Godless BS. IT IS SICK.

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    • lokiswifeComment by lokiswife
      February 27, 2013 @ 3:07 pm

      The article stated that the child could use the nurse’s bathroom or a staff bathroom instead of the girls bathroom. The child is messed up, but why make a big stink over something that could be taken care of with common sense? Geez Louise, are there any thinking adults around that school? Assign him/her to use the nurse’s or staff bathroom and get on with life. Don’t you just love it when overpaid and underbrained people get their knickers in a knot over things like this?

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    • gopluvaComment by gopluva
      February 27, 2013 @ 3:11 pm

      Many little girls like to wear pants instead of dresses. We have always called them tomboys. Why is it different if a child likes dresses instead of pants.Does not a transgender make.Maybe because mom wants another girl who knows? But the child is a boy so should use the boys bathroom.Ihave known lots of little children and thru the years I have never heard a child that young complain about being a different sex.They dont know they are different except the lines at school or clothes.Leave her a boy until he is old enough to know one way or another.

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    • deserteachComment by deserteach
      February 27, 2013 @ 11:40 pm

      The problem with the internet is that it allows fools, dullards and no-nothings to spread their ignorance and lack of intelligence like wildfire.

      It is better to remain silent and be thought the fool than to speak and remove all doubt…..Damn

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    • patriotwithabrainComment by patriotwithabrain
      February 28, 2013 @ 6:26 am

      Pretty typical of Colorado these days. I think Colorado, in many ways, has greatly surpassed California as having so many lunatic, high & hysterical, leftist-nonsense wackos! It’s the World’s Largest Outdoor Insane Asylum!

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  2. mysticComment by mystic
    February 27, 2013 @ 2:03 pm

    Why hasn’t testing been done to determine if this child is an incomplete female or male. Meaning XXY or YYX child. There are more and more of these types of anomalies being born into today’s society. It isn’t out of medical treatment or grasp either to remedy the situation. So why are the parents, and this article, absent these facts.

    If this is not a story of an incomplete gender (YYX,XXY) condition; then it is psychological…which in a person this young makes me turn towards the parents as to the explanation as to why this child actuates towards it’s opposite gender.

    ~M

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    • lindarmComment by lindarm
      February 27, 2013 @ 4:35 pm

      There are physical differences in the brains of those who have gender dysphoria. Most doctors stick their heads in the sand. They have done no studies and simply don’t care and don’t want to know what causes this. So they get the psychiatrists to give it a bogus name. However I know two endocrinologists who deal with this. They have done some extensive studies on the subject. I am also the grandmother of someone who at age two decided they were a boy. Imagine the shock and what we have been through. We fought this for years, trying to raise this child as a girl and as normally as possible. Finally in his high school freshman year; he said “enough is enough”. He’s been taking hormones to acquire facial hair and a lower voice and also had surgery. He is now 20 years old and a well adjusted person who attends college and has quite a few friends of both sexes. Those who have not been through this have no idea of the agony, the tears, the pain, and , the years of counseling sessions, this kind of thing causes since society like some of those on this forum take the pitch fork and torches attitude towards these human beings.

      However, let me say that I would not be raising this Colorado child as anything other than what he is. I think it is early days and he may just be going through a phase in his self perceptions. I think it is too early to tell how he is going to see himself by the time high school rolls around.

      One more thing, don’t judge unless you have walked in someone else’s shoes. Inform yourself and take a breath.

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    • Peter NyikosComment by Peter Nyikos
      February 28, 2013 @ 6:27 am

      lindarm, I’m sorry to say, you are arguing with the wrong person. If you are sincere in your next to last paragraph, you should voice agreement with everything he says.

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    • marj0120Comment by marj0120
      February 28, 2013 @ 10:55 am

      I am so sorry but disfiguring one’s self is not “well adjusted” behavior. Well adjusted absolutely means that you have accepted and adjusted to who you are in realty. Have you seen the bizzare joke that Cher’s daughter has made of herself. Instead of just being a gay woman she is now neither male or female, she’s just an oddity. All of the little girls in that school have the inate right to go to the bathroom without having a misguided boy in their mist. I feel so bad for this child having been born into this family. Did you see the pic of this whole family, the children have blue and pink hair at grade school ages. You may think this is one big happy family but I think mom is a real sick person and dad is a whimp (who should not call himself a Marine), for allowing her to make their children into the school freaks. There is a fine line in allowing children to express themselves and allowing them to run wild and make fools of themselves. Parents are supposed to teach them how to live in a civilized society, to have a chance at success and happiness in the society they live in. The idea that if it feels good, do it” isn’t helping our society and it’s sad that these children are being allowed to make decisions far beyond their years and knowledge levels.

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  3. jenerseaComment by jenersea
    February 27, 2013 @ 2:10 pm

    Here is definately a case of follow the little misguided midget home and see who opens the door for him. Mommy moron or Daddy Dufus. Daddy was a Marine and does not know the harm of letting the kid run the show. Just another homosexual hero moment that other people have to contend with. Look down little dude it will tell you everything. The 2 idiots living in the house who are supposed to be looking out for his best interests allowed this to happen for years. What does Daddy dress up as when he is home? Sickos are allowed to breed.

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  4. paulthepatriot1776Comment by paulthepatriot1776
    February 27, 2013 @ 2:26 pm

    Transgender Legal Defense and Eductional Fund – are there any other way to get peoples money! What else will they come up with in order to downgrade God’s creation. The homosexual community at one time was 2% of the populaton. I understand it is now 25% of the population. I don’t have any polling stats on this, just what I read. Our country has unleashed demonic forces across this Nation which are taking over and God’s hand is being lifted as we can see from natural disasters, draught, high loss of crops yields, floods, earthquakes in diver places and a host of other areas that is causing the very earth to shake. Yet we’ll blame God for our failures. These parents are doing nothing but sympathizing with a problem that will come back to haunt them in a few years as they coddle and pamper this BOY by encouraging him with unnatural desires and tendancies. We are being overrun by unnatural lifestyles. God save America, please!

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    • truth_will_set_you_free!!Comment by #romneywasourhope
      February 27, 2013 @ 2:36 pm

      I love your post.Everything in this article made my lip curl in disgust.I absolutely dislike trans,gays,lesbians,and anything that openly is against what God says.If ever found in contact with a person or people like this,they would be highly offended.

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    • terry10boomComment by terry10boom
      February 27, 2013 @ 7:04 pm

      This is a spiritual issue. Homosexuality and transgender are the best ways to separate a person from God, usually for life. The Bible is clear that in God’s eyes homosexuality is an abomination, and men are not wear women’s garments and vice versa. Transgender and homosexuality are demonic spirits of perversion and confusion, from which a person can be set free through Jesus Christ. But most of them don’t want to be free from this. They buy into the lie that these conditions cannot be changed and they love their sin too much. There is blindness and weakness on the part of the parents of this boy, but most people don’t know how or are not willing to help these confused people find freedom through Christ. These people need deliverance.

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    • rochesternativeComment by rochesternative
      February 27, 2013 @ 10:24 pm

      The number of gays et al is nowhere near 25%. It’s not even close to the “accepted” statistic of 10% What has happened is that they have pushed themselves into the limelight and are trying to make everyone “SEE” them. I’m sure, like child abuse and rape people being (kept quiet) gay etc kept their fetish hidden until recently which it why it “seems” there are so many “more” The important thing to remember is that as Christians we are commanded to hate the sin but love the sinner.

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  5. mjmanley10Comment by mjmanley10
    February 27, 2013 @ 2:49 pm

    You have got to be kidding me! The 4 year old need his butt whipped in order to straighten him out. And to the parents: shame, shame, on you for encouraging this behavior. And did I also read that the father is a Marine? What a screwed up country this is in more ways than one. What’s next? Romance with animals???

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    • pistol packing mamaComment by txgoatlady
      February 27, 2013 @ 2:59 pm

      PETA might draw the line at that. That would be exploiting animals. ;-)

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    • bull57Comment by bull57
      February 27, 2013 @ 3:08 pm

      Y’all are idiots. Someone needs to take your liberal ***** out behind the barn and beat some common sense into your pea brain. This nonsense could stop with a well placed little hand somewhere across where you sit. It’s not the kids fault, but some idiot parents that don’t have the brains god gave a Knat!

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  6. nax777Comment by nax777
    February 27, 2013 @ 3:04 pm

    LGBT’s and their supporters will use anything to booster their cause including and especially small children. But wait the Pubs want to do away SS so none of this matters. Details are boring and pointless we need to vote FOR this insanity in the name of saving SS!
    Things like this are the result voter reactions to baseless claims and/or truths without details.
    Please sign the petition and explore the sites.
    http://www.saynotoamnesty.com / http://www.goooh.com

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  7. KAHR50Comment by KAHR50
    February 27, 2013 @ 3:22 pm

    How can anyone argue that his littel gets to be on display to all the girls?

    Sickos.

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  8. soonerComment by sooner
    February 27, 2013 @ 3:35 pm

    After reading this, I’m feeling like I need to go burn my clothes and take a shower! These parents “socially transitioned her to a girl” Does that mean he goes to sleep-overs at little girls’ houses? Does playing with dolls instead of toy guns make him a girl? These parents are the worst kind of child abusers and this boy and the rest of the children should be removed from this home immediately! This kid should be forced to play on the football team and watch John Wayne movies until he straightens himself out.

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    • deserteachComment by deserteach
      February 27, 2013 @ 11:47 pm

      You OBVIOUSLY didn’t read the article……Thank God your from OKLAHOMA….you won’t do much damage in an already backward state……

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  9. DudleyComment by Dudley
    February 27, 2013 @ 3:37 pm

    Man this country is screwed up.

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  10. illigitimicarborundumComment by illigitimicarborundum
    February 27, 2013 @ 3:40 pm

    You are either the parent or nothing. If you love your children you teach them, you help them to be competent; you don’t just let them grow like weeds. You teach them right from wrong, good from bad, virtues vs. vice.
    What these people have done is neglect and abuse. This is going to start to hurt.
    And why do we have the accept the false pronoun changes? These media people accept whatever pronoun the person wants to apply to themselves. Where is the so called freedom to be who we are that we have been hearing so much about? And now if I don’t play football and I know how fashion works am I less of a man?

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  11. 25800bsComment by 25800bs
    February 27, 2013 @ 4:20 pm

    Great, another liberal in the making !

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  12. awmacronymComment by awmacronym
    February 27, 2013 @ 4:53 pm

    Ah, lovely. And no, not the article about the situation itself, but you bloggers. You are the ultra-right wingnuts who give the Republican party a bad name and typecast us as a bunch of ignorant God-fearing fundamentalists.

    You really think kids like this and other people who fall under the lgbt category can just snap out of it? All of the empirical and scientific evidence overwhelmingly indicates otherwise. And no, I am not one of them; I am one-hundred percent biologically male with no desire to change that and I definitely like women. I know whatever doctrine you adhere to keeps you from critical thinking, but I submit that you just attempt to deny your own heterosexual desires and better yet, experiment with homosexuality and/or crossdressing. Somehow I doubt those efforts would take. Who knows, some of you might be better off based on the intolerant postings I have seen!

    Furthermore, from what I have read this is just a passing thing for most of the kids that experience it, but this one probably has a condition that will follow to adulthood.

    This is definitely not a normal condition from a biological standpoint, but neither is blindness. Would you scorn the parents and child on moral grounds if she was blind? Compassion apparently does not seem to rule the day here. Imagine what both the child and parents are going through right now, and you are getting on your moral high horses to add insult to injury. You are the same type of people who had no qualm with the “God hates fags” demonstrations at Matthew Shepard’s funeral. Maybe someday you will have more empathy when someone close to you comes out of the closet or admits to having transgender issues.

    In the meantime, how about addressing fiscal conservatism, limited government, protecting our borders, illegal immigration, an astronomical deficit and a bad economy with chronically high unemployment? You know, uh, REAL Republican issues.

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    • lindarmComment by lindarm
      February 27, 2013 @ 5:15 pm

      awmacronym, I’m the one who wrote about my grand daughter who acted noticeably male at age two and continued into adulthood. We tried everything to make it not so. We are a very conservative family, but we also understand the plight of those who are different. We did what we could and in the end, the results were the same. This was a case of a boy in a girl’s body. I am appalled by some of the nasty comments here. And you are so right, that these are the people who give the republican party a bad name. I coudl go on, but I think I have exhausted the subject. Thanks for you what you said. You are 100% right .

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    • paulthepatriot1776Comment by paulthepatriot1776
      February 27, 2013 @ 5:32 pm

      awmacronym you best understand that God does not hate the “***”, the “homosexual”, the “hetersexual” who has relations out of wedlock,the “bisexual” or any human who has sinned, He hates the sin and the sooner you learn that the faster you will understand why His hand has been lifted off this Nation that was once great. I can’t believe what “O” has been put in to office to bring down this Nation in humble obedience to the Living God if we don’t change our ways. He hates the sin . . . not the sinner!

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    • vevaComment by veva
      February 27, 2013 @ 10:34 pm

      Where else in nature does this ever happen? And at age 18 mths? Proove that at that age, one can comprehend what ‘gender’ really means.

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    • wypatriotComment by wypatriot
      February 28, 2013 @ 8:40 pm

      So here’s an idea that they should consider… since reproduction of two men and two women can NOT reproduce than shouldn’t the first treatment for those who despise the opposite sex be sterilization ? In this way they are No longer a threat or a distraction to others of their gender to remove any hindrance to their acceptance by society as a whole? Since they can’t modify their behavior they should look the part- you can’t be both!

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  13. conservativepatriotComment by conservativepatriot
    February 27, 2013 @ 4:56 pm

    This is pathetic. Funny how this didn’t happen in the past, but all of a sudden we have these men trapped in women’s bodies, and vice versa. I don’t suppose the parents encouraged this, did they? Now with obama’s help, we have homosexuality and other deviant behavior called “normal”, taught in the schools, and in some places professionals are actually legally prohibited from trying to help these people with their problems. If you don’t think our society has descended about as low as it can go, this is just another example.

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  15. highsiderComment by highsider
    February 27, 2013 @ 6:13 pm

    The problem here is not a transgender 6 year old child, it is two parents who are transenders. Their brains are in their butts.

    It’s a warped world we live in when some children are taken away from their parents to keep them from being home schooled, but other parents can get away with, even get the publicity they so obviously crave, after damaging a child to this extent.

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  16. prairelivingComment by praireliving
    February 27, 2013 @ 6:32 pm

    I can’t imagine how an 18 month old can decide what gender they are other than what the parents tell them. When my children ask why they are a girl or a boy rather than the other (usually when they first realize that there is a difference between boys and girls) I have a simple answer: That is how God made you and He knows what he is doing. They accept it and move on. Kids are curious at young ages and can come up with all kinds of silly notions.

    Had the child insisted that they were a dog would these parents have put a collar and leash on them and taken them to puppy training classes and had them go outdoors to do their business? Had the child insisted they were a cat would they have given them a scratching post? What if they had said they were a dinosaur or, as one of my nephews insisted for the longest time, a superhero?

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    • rochesternativeComment by rochesternative
      February 27, 2013 @ 10:28 pm

      I agree. 18mo-3years old kids will do anything to disagree with their parents. Their favorite word is NO.

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  17. jimwgComment by jimwg
    February 27, 2013 @ 6:41 pm

    This _boy_ needs serious psychological workups, not pandering to a new PC species much less submit him to a knife. The unisexual culture and diminishing of masculine roles and parental and social unwillingness to challenge boys to tough it in life and adversity have made many boys “escape” to the imagined softer haven of another sex. Way too many “transgenders” have been coming out of the walls since the sex-free sixties to merely explain it as a closet condition of the ages. P.S.: Watch how just speculating such makes you a callous bigot.

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  18. lindarmComment by lindarm
    February 27, 2013 @ 6:46 pm

    My grandchild went through years of work ups and counseling.
    You say way too many transgenders have been coming out of the walls. They were always there. You just didn’t notice. You were safe in your little cocoon of “normalcy”.

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  19. mcoryComment by mcory
    February 27, 2013 @ 7:04 pm

    These parents are idiots who shouldn’t have children. They should go to a proper psychologist who isn’t into this transgender nonsense. These quacks are harming society and children. Just because someone earned a Ph.D. doesn’t mean that they aren’t idiots.

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  20. marj0120Comment by marj0120
    February 27, 2013 @ 7:20 pm

    I have nine brothers and seven sisters between my two parents. I am third from the oldest and helped care for most of the younger ones. I have raised several children. Most 18 month old babies are barely starting to articulate basic sentences and aren’t real sophisicated. Very few will reject a colorful toy designed for the opposite sex or even realize that there is an opposite sex unless there has been some mindbending concentration with visuals on the topic of what makes a boy and what makes a girl. Children go through phases as part of normal growth and development, some girls are Tomboys at least until puberty kicks in completely. One nephew loved sweeping and mopping but my sister was a single mom. No biggy, as teen hood approached it would take threats to get him to clean his room and he acted like he had no clue which end of a broom did the job. He married, two kids all normal. I can’t imagine how anyone could take what a toddler says seriously enough to react and immediately work towards making what he/she said a fact. In grade school I think I would have sat this child down and told his that until he was old enough to make this decision as an adult he had to deal with being a boy. What are they going to do when his testosterone kicks in and he falls for a girl, now yet again are they going to transition him back into a young man? Haircut one day and boy’s clothing the next? I wish this young boy the very best, not sure he will get the best guidence from his parents.

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  21. ohnoanotherconstitutionalistComment by ohnoanotherconstitutionalist
    February 27, 2013 @ 7:27 pm

    Another Non-issue purely for media attention. Read the professionals. Read XYY and YXX variations in males. It does not cause “transgenders” The leading expert in the study of trans individuals says if it goes against the system it is inefficient in it’s efficacy.
    Jillian Todd Weiss:

    Trans studies – an academic field of study focusing on the experience of “trans” people and the insights provided thereby into such traditional academic subjects as medicine, sociology, anthropology, psychology, philosophy, law and history….
    12. What justifies sex segregation?
    We have different bathrooms for men and women, segregating those public spaces by sex. Unlike racial segregation, differences between the sexes are widely perceived as natural, not social, and therefore proper, neutral and unchanging. (I might point out that racial segregation was popularly viewed, not too long ago, as natural.) Institutional systems incorporate sex segregation, expressed as a series of ostensibly neutral and impartial rules. Transgenders, who do not conform to sexual stereotypes, are seen as denying natural facts, as unnatural. Their attempts to express their gender identity goes against institutional systems incorporating sex segregation. These attempts are therefore rejected, and transgenders are seen as not only different, but as incompatible with the system. Although individuals whose job it is to enforce the system may view transgender claims with sympathy, they are forbidden from accepting such claims by the system rules. Their “hands are tied.” The system ties their hands. System change takes a tremendous amount of effort and results in a great deal of inefficiency. Even such simple measures as changing forms, creating new bathroom rules and permitting documentation changes require immense amounts of time, money and effort. Inefficiency is the enemy of the system, and anyone arguing for inefficiency, such as transgenders, are enemies of the system. The anger and frustration of transgenders at being treated like enemies are seen as rebellion and as evidence of their mental instability and social dangerousness.

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  22. jb80538Comment by jb80538
    February 27, 2013 @ 7:28 pm

    These parents must have desperatly wanted another girl and because of that decided to raise one of their boys as one. They are MESSED up and the kid will have major problems because of eir selfishnss! No way at 18 months anyone has any idea the difference between boyand girl interests.

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  23. gymboComment by gymbo
    February 27, 2013 @ 11:27 pm

    Good comments from quite a few. My instincts go toward blaming the parents, ala, if the child thought he were a dog, would you raise him as a dog, or correct him. I’ve seen plenty of children who wished they were something other than what they are. But the personal experience from lindarm makes me withhold judgment, as I don’t know the parents and don’t know how much effort they put into “correcting” the child. My big questions for the two people on this blog who sided with the parents: Should the school be forced to allow the child to use the girls facilities? Bathroom stalls may be private, but what about locker rooms in high school? What about the rights of the other girls in the school? I know that when I was in high school, a lot of us guys would have said we “felt like a being a girl” today, if it earned us a shower with the girls. I feel sorry for children (and their parents) who have psychological, genetic, or any sort of disorder. But why do the rest of us have to lose our rights to accommodate their desires? I have a daughter with psychological problems and I sure don’t expect everyone else in the school to have to put up with her behavioral abnormalities. It’s a constant battle with her to convince her she needs to try to act like everyone else and quit disrupting the class. The school finally had to put her in a class full of other emotionally disturbed kids. I’m sorry it came to that, but we couldn’t allow her to rob 24 other students of their education. They have rights too.

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  24. notforsaleComment by notforsale
    February 27, 2013 @ 11:58 pm

    Sadly, which bathroom to use is just the BEGINNING of this child’s problems.

    I have two grandchildren (girl & boy). One summer my granddaughter decided that she was a boy – to the point that all summer long she wore swimming trunks, boys underwear (they were way cooler – they were Sponge Bob) and a baseball cap turned backwards. Just so happened, a baby brother had entered the picture six months earlier. When my grandson was around two, he had lots of fun dressing up in his sister’s tu-tu and dancing around. We just let them do their thing and each phase lasted a short time.

    I’m afraid what this story shows is some much need common sense in parenting. If tests were done (questioning the triplet birth because that normally only happens when Mommy has taken fertility drugs) and showed no genetic abnormalities, then a phychologist should have been involved – with the whole family – years ago! Just my opinion.

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  25. dianilineComment by dianiline
    February 28, 2013 @ 9:21 am

    All toddlers identify with their mothers, wanting to grow up like her, essentially to *be* her. Boy toddlers face the additional developmental hurdle of learning to switch that allegiance over to Dad, because of course they are not going to grow up to be completely like Mom.

    It is thought that this is one of the reasons boys are developmentally and academically behind girls, having had to accomplish this extra developmental step before they can really begin the business of building their identity.

    Here is a boy who missed a step. It is sad that his parents choose to embrace his developmental misfire rather than parenting him into correcting it. When he was 18 months old, it was completely appropriate for him to identify as a girl, though most boys don’t do it so openly. He was beginning to get the picture that there is a difference. So sad that no one in his life, except his father, recognized his mistake, and his father did not have the courage to stand up for his son against those who wished to celebrate the error of a toddler.

    Then again, it’s clear that Mom wears the pants in this family, so perhaps young Coy simply thinks pretending to be a girl will make him more powerful.

    And “Coy”? What kind of gay hooker name is that to give a boy anyway? If these parents didn’t want to set this kid up for bullying and harassment, they would have given him a real name.

    These “parents” say “not letting Coy be who she was would cause her harm”. Exactly. Not letting Coy be the boy he is will certainly cause him harm. You can let the boy play with dolls, or whatever he wants, while refusing to allow him to refer to himself as a girl, because he isn’t.

    Or you can culture a whole huge world of harm in him, by allowing him to actually think of himself as a girl, which he’s not.

    So sad that they choose to raise a child in willful ignorance of the most basic facts of life.

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